This is a complete list of all articles and links found upon this site. I arranged them in a particular order. Each one taking you one step further upon your quest for knowledge regarding a BDSM D/s relationship.





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What is NEW at Submissive Loving!!
Here is where you will find additions and changes to the site listed according to the date.
D/s 101
Get to know the basics of bdsm before you begin. What on earth is D/s? What does it mean and is it for you? Dom/sub 101 is my attempt at explaining it all as simply as possible.
D/s Cheat Sheet
A simple little list regarding domination, submission, and bdsm.
Tolerance
The capacity for or the practice of recognizing and respecting the beliefs or practices of others. Mandatory lesson.
A Philosophy on Ds Relationship - Setting the Foundation
A thought provoking article on power exchange and the dynamics of the D/s relationship.
Who Are You?
Where Are You With Yourself & The Lifestyle?
True, Real, and Wannabe..Ridding Ourselves of the Country Club Mentality.
Still fighting the childish mentality of "the ONE true way."
Why is it We Do What We Do? or What Do We Need a Dominant For Anyway?
One woman's search for "why" D/s and when did the craving begin?
Demands vs. Expectations
If you want to get to know someone, then go for it. If they want to get to know you and you want them too, then let them go digging. Stop showing people round the fun-fair just so they can see all the rides are closed.
The Healthy Submissive
A submissive discovers, or more properly, realizes and acknowledges that she functions AT HER BEST in relation to another.
Submission
Submission is an action of personal strength. To overcome internal resistance the submissive must control their desire or need to maintain personal control in the creation and delivery of all personal decisions. They must overcome...............
Submission From Strength
I simply want other submissives and dominants to know that subservience and submission are two different kettles of fish.
Submissive Frenzies
Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another.
The Number One Fear
This article is in response to the site poll, "What is your greatest fear regarding entering into or being in a d/s relationship?"
The Cinderella Complex
The Cinderella Complex is a mind state where someone believes that if the right "One" comes into their life, all of their problems will disappear.
Choosing a Dom: Know exactly what you want
You are a submissive. You have read everything you could get your hands on and talked to anyone who would offer advice. Now, it is time to choose your dominant.
The Submissives Definition of Domination
It is imperative that you are able to communicate what you expect from submission. To do that, you must have a clear understanding of what you expect from domination as well.
Ownership and Collars
There appears to be some confusion regarding ownership and collars. I do hope I can help to clear some of that up for you.
A Lifestyle Contract (example)
Lifestyle contract - Agreement of Power Exchange
Anticipation of the Dominants Needs
Anticipation of needs is one aspect of submission that my Master expects from me and I do believe that there are many other dominants who expect the same effort.
Anticipation of the Dominants Needs Part 2
A realistic approach from a slave regarding anticipation of her Master's needs.
When Times Get Tough Don't Get Selfish
I will be the first submissive to admit this. I am selfish about my needs. I am selfish about Master's time and attention....
Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits: The Sadist's Playground
Many submissives are very attracted to sadists but do not stop to think about the consequences of a relationship with one.
Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits, Part 2, Satiating the Beast
The following conversation was created to help submissives who have concerns/fears about being able to satisfy the desires of a dominant who enjoys pushing limits and has extensive experience with such. This article is intended to aide in calming those fears. I had them myself and thought I would share my experience with all of you in a creative setting.
When Fantasy and Reality Collide
Unrealistic expectations and desires are some of the most difficult challenges faced by those who are experienced in the lifestyle when dealing with those just entering the lifestyle. In many ways we each buy into a particular 'aspect' of the fantasy. Be it the control, or the subjugation or the intense eroticism. None of these things are sustainable 24 hours a day. Yet over and over people try to implement the impossible.
Can D/s Survive Marriage?
An article written by slave dove regarding the realities of 24/7 dominance & submission.
Progression of a D/s Relationship
You've decided that this type of lifestyle is for you, and you're interested in pursuing a relationship with a Master or a submissive. You think you are prepared for everything that you will encounter in the Mastery lifestyle, but have you thought about the actual future? Have you considered how the relationship will progress?.........
Rules for a D/s Relationship
One of the most important aspects of a D/s relationship, but often least considered especially by newcomers, is the rules pertaining to who controls what part of the submissive's life. It is all too easy to say that the Dominant retains total control, period. However,........
Pleasing your Dominant
How a submissive can gracefully handle mistakes and why is seems difficult to please the Dominant at times.
Submission and Jealousy
Jealousy out of control is a poison pill. Learn how to deal with it.
The Modern Master - Dominance in the new Millenium
The Modern Master recognises His responsibility that in accepting the gift of submission from His slave/submissive, He has obligations.
A Master's Prayer (My Last Sub)
My next Sub will be my last. She will be as devoted to me as I am to her. She will trust in my loyalty and my judgement. She will feel safe in my presence and still feel my protection in my absence. She will never mistake sensitivity and caring for weakness.
Submissive's Creed
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm. I will not try to manipulate my Master...........
Domination and submission: A Dom's Point of View
When I look around the web, and listen to people talk on IRC, I am amazed at the wealth of information that abounds on BDSM...in all of its flavors and varieties. Much of this information tends to be technique oriented..."how to flog" or "using clothes pins." There is nothing wrong with that...and I wish I had access to
Advice to a Novice Dominant
How does a new Dominant begin with a sub? This is a fantastic article which will help the newbies out there wanting to dominate me. I also encourage ALL Dom/Dommes to visit this page. There are some very good points regarding Dominance.
Points to Ponder - More Advice for Dominants
Eight interesting points to think about regarding dominance. #1. If you have to lie about yourself in order to get someone to submit to you. They did not submit to you.
Qualities of a Successful Dom
Very few people actually have what it takes to be successful dominants, and real dominants are actually quite rare, as many more people have the desire to dominate someone sadomasochistically than have the ability to do it well. To dominate someone full-time and in person requires a lot of very hard work on the dominant's part; a successful dominant does this hard work because the rewards, for him, are worth it.....
He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom , but is he really a Dom?
Thoughts on the difference between appearing to be in control, and actually being in control
10 Rules for a Wise Dominant
1) The submissive's SAFETY will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally...........
Are You a Dominant or a God?
One submissive's personal message to dominants having a crisis of faith regarding their ability to dominate.
Training the Sensual Submissive
Where to begin when training your submissive to be the perfect sensual partner for you.
101 ideas to make Your slave feel Owned (i.e. loved)
Run out of ideas on what to do with that sub/slave?? THIS is the place to look.
Unhealthy Control - Warning Signs of the Non Dominant
Do not confuse unhealthy controlling behavior for dominance.
Searching for Mr. GoodChat
What submissives can expect when searching the online mine field for a Dominant.
An Examination of Domination and Punishment
Thoughts on sadism, domination, and punishment.
Punishment
Is withdrawl fair punishment for a sub/slave?
Passive Discipline
This article was written to address MINOR acting out behavior problems such as are fairly routine or typical in many D/s relationships. Part of ALL discipline is simple understanding between the Dominant and submissive and it should be clearly understood that all actions are voluntary. Communicate clearly. Communicate often. Listen!
Polyamory
Get the facts about polyamory BEFORE you wig out and rant regarding something you don't have the facts on. This article is offsite but so excellent that I just HAD to add the link here for those with questions concerning this controversial subject.
How should a Dom End the Relationship?
Scenario: The Dominant has decided it is best to end a relationship with a submissive. This isn't quite the same as ending a vanilla relationship. A sub has "given" themselves over to another human being, thus putting them at some level of subspace ALL the time. Does a Dom simply ...
The Toy Box
The Toy Box is an individual's assemblage of toys. Within the BDSM realm we tend to commonly call instruments that deliver sensation 'Toys'. In extension the submissive themselves can at times be considered a 'Toy' being used or played with by a Dominant.
BDSM Toys/Sex Toys
I found a creative list of BDSM toys which I love, Click here to check it out! Bet you didn't know you had so many sex toys laying around your house.
Toy of the Month
Information on my new favorite toys.
What is a Scene?
A simple description of what to expect from a bdsm scene.
Scene/Roleplay Ideas/Scenarios
Fun bdsm scene ideas to experiment with and incorporate into your "play" time.
Submissive Loving's Lifestyle Blog Community
A new section listing blogs of those in the lifestyle. Instructions for submitting your link are on the page.
Submissive Loving's Book Shop
Recommended BDSM reading from fact to fiction
Submissive Loving's Music Shop
Music to enhance your scenes.
Submissive Loving's D/s Postcards
Send a FREE bdsm postcard to show how much you care
Sensuality Bookshop
The most highly recommended and popular books to aide in spicing up your sensuality and sexuality.
SL's Tantric Realm
Sensual tips, tricks, and techniques to enhance those steamy moments and please your partner.
BDSM Links
BDSM Webrings
Meeting others in the lifestyle