This section of the site is for and about submissives interested in a D/s relationship. The goal is to guide submissives and provide solid information useful within the D/s relationship. Be sure to stop back as I will be adding more to this section.

I strongly suggest ALL subs visit the Dominant section as well. The articles there helped me to decide who I am willing to accept as my Dominant and what type of behavior I will and will not tolerate from "Dominants". Yes ladies, we get to be picky. We MUST be picky. Our wellbeing is at stake.

D/s 101
Get to know the basics of bdsm before you begin. What on earth is D/s? What does it mean and is it for you? Dom/sub 101 is my attempt at explaining it all as simply as possible.
The Healthy Submissive
A submissive discovers, or more properly, realizes and acknowledges that she functions AT HER BEST in relation to another. nonsexual aspects of being submissive: "am I sick because I yearn to depend on, and follow the lead of, a man stronger than myself?
Submission is an action of personal strength. To overcome internal resistance the submissive must control their desire or need to maintain personal control in the creation and delivery of all personal decisions. They must overcome...............
Submission From Strength
I simply want other submissives and dominants to know that subservience and submission are two different kettles of fish.
Submissive Frenzies
Submissive Frenzies are a state or condition that many if not all submissives will experience at one time or another.
The Cinderella Complex
The Cinderella Complex is a mind state where someone believes that if the right "One" comes into their life, all of their problems will disappear.
A Lesson that MUST be learned by submissives and dominants
Choosing a Dom: Know exactly what you want
You are a submissive. You have read everything you could get your hands on and talked to anyone who would offer advice. Now, it is time to choose your dominant.
The Submissives Definition of Domination
It is imperative that you are able to communicate what you expect from submission. To do that, you must have a clear understanding of what you expect from domination as well.
Searching for Mr. GoodChat
What you can expect and some advice when searching the online mine field for a dominant.
Anticipation of the Dominants Needs
Anticipation of needs is one aspect of submission that my Master expects from me and I do believe that there are many other dominants who expect the same effort.
Anticipation of the Dominants Needs Part 2
A realistic approach from a slave regarding anticipation of her Master's needs.
When Times Get Tough Don't Get Selfish
I will be the first submissive to admit this. I am selfish about my needs. I am selfish about Master's time and attention....
Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits
Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits: The Sadist's Playground. Give some thought to what you are willing to submit to without closing your mind.
Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits, Part 2, Satiating the Beast
The following conversation was created to help submissives who have concerns/fears about being able to satisfy the desires of a dominant who enjoys pushing limits and has extensive experience with such. This article is intended to aide in calming those fears. I had them myself and thought I would share my experience with all of you in a creative setting.
Submissive's Creed/Rights/Prayer
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm. I will not try to manipulate my Master...........
Pleasing your Dominant
How a submissive can gracefully handle mistakes and why is seems difficult to please the Dominant at times.
Submission and Jealousy
Jealousy out of control is a poison pill. Learn how to deal with it.
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The Hell of Online BDSM
Oh yes, I have tons to say about online D/s and bdsm.
Toy of the Month
Information on my favorite new toys.
Submissive Loving's Lifestyle Blog Community
A new section listing blogs of those in the lifestyle. Instructions for submitting your link are on the page.
Bdsm Books
Recommended BDSM reading from fact to fiction
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Music to enhance your scenes.
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Sensuality Bookshop
The most highly recommended and popular books to aide in spicing up your sensuality and sexuality.
SL's Tantric Realm
Sensual tips, tricks, and techniques to enhance those steamy moments and please your partner.
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